Each of us have childhood issues that we sometimes ask other to resolve for us.  My mother didn’t love would you do that for me.  I was never understood as a child would you do that for me.  This behavior seldom works out well.  Our partners cannot know what our emotional needs are and when we need them met.  In addition, it drains energy from our partners.  The one person who can meets these needs is us.  We should work to do so.