Setting boundaries is the process of letting other people know what we will and won’t tolerate. Emotional and physical abuse should not be tolerated and people need to understand that we will not interact with them if they don’t treat us in a loving, respectful manner.  There are numerous situations in intimate relationships that have to be negotiated and the more skillfully we ask for what we need, the more likely we are to be successful.  It is always our responsibility to insure that people treat us respectfully.  We control our boundaries.